4/8/18 – Intimacy Transforms Us – Dr. Fred & Val Bennett

INTIMACY TRANSFORMS US

Intro
Intimacy transforms us.
God wants us whole, healthy, and holy in every aspect of our lives. In fact He said thru Paul in 1 Thes 5:23 Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We are going to look at the spiritual, sacrificial & relational areas of our lives which we are going to develop further.

Intimacy definitions: close familiarity or friendship; closeness; the intimacy between a husband & a wife.
Synonyms: closeness, togetherness, affinity, rapport, attachment, familiarity, friendliness, friendship, amity, affection, warmth, confidence;
Many even confuse love with sex – making love is giving your spirit, soul, & body to your spouse.

2 COR 3:17-18
17 “Now the Lord is the Spirit and where the Spirit of the Lord is there is there is liberty.
18 And we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.”

Where is the Spirit of the Lord?

God wants spiritual intimacy with us & has gone to extraordinary lengths to facilitate it!
He’s called us out of darkness into His marvelous light, out of satan’s grip into God’s awesome power; to the forgiveness of sin, and an inheritance among those who are being sanctified by faith in Jesus’ name.
The inheritance is the promise of the Father, His Holy Spirit.
Consider all He does in us by the Holy Spirit:
He saves us as we’re born again by the Spirit
He is always present with us by the Abiding Holy Spirit
He empowers us with the gifts of the Holy Spirit
He sanctifies us by the Holy Spirit

1. Transformation is spiritual

Intimacy with God, with our covenant spouse, and with our community of faith can only be experienced with an unveiled face.

Moses’ veil, God, on the mountain in God’s presence no veil, he put it on when he came down from the mountain for Israel’s sake, so they would not see the glory of God fading from his countenance
When Jesus breathed His last on the cross the earth shook and the veil of the temple was rent. No longer would it just be Moses or Aaron or some high priest who would know the glory of God. No more glory that would fade away.
We have a better covenant! We are being transformed from glory to glory just as by the Spirit of the Lord. When we are born again, we become a part of the bride of Christ. And the veil that separated us from God’s presence and glory is removed,

Val
Bridal veil, marriage, spiritual calling to become One, God sees a couple together before the foundation of the world. His word says that marriage is a holy calling.
Are we going to submit to His word which means we are going in the same direction, therefore have agreement of vision to fulfill the call as a couple.
That means 2 deaths & one resurrection, a picture of the relationship between Christ and His church, we are the Bride of Christ.
So when a couple come forward in the marriage ceremony, her veil is removed from her face – a picture of the glory of God and Transformation from two individuals to one – cleaving together.

2. Transformation is Sacrificial

RO 12:1,2 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.

Some versions say “spiritual worship”
We presented our bodies as a living sacrifice this morning by our physical presence in this worship service.
We could have been doing something else but we made a living sacrifice to be here.
Why is this important? Not just a God rule!
When we worship the Lord together in Spirit and in Truth it transforms us.
Revived, refreshed, renewed…we are as One in His presence.
There is little or no intimacy without physical presence. This is why our relationship with God is so intimate. He has placed His Holy Spirit, His presence in our physical body.
Then He shows us how to exponentially increase the power of His presence. Wherever two or more are gathered together in His name the sense of His presence is enhanced.

Mt 18:20
He is always with us. He never leaves us or forsakes us.
When we are physically present together in His name, He is powerfully with us.

Val
We do the same in marriage by being physically present for our spouse, for the two shall become one flesh. Amos 3:3 how can 2 walk together…..we cover each other’s back.
This body is God’s, a temple of the Holy Spirit.
This body is my wife’s and her body is mine. 1 Cor 7
I am to present my body to God and my spouse as a living sacrifice. It is to be “Holy and Acceptable”.

What does that mean?
It should be in the best condition possible.
Set apart first for the Lord and secondly for my spouse.
The Lord told Israel that when they brought a sacrifice it should be the best.
If we are negligent in the care of our body, and persist in treating our bodies in unhealthy ways, it’s not holy or acceptable.

Ephesians 5:18-21 “18 And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, 20 giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.

Galatians 5:19-21
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Destructive, reckless, unhealthy lifestyles defile the body.
We are to Be good stewards of our bodies that Paul likened to an earthly tent. Therefore, cleanse yourselves from every defilement of flesh and spirit.
How do I do that?
In Spirit & in truth.
Holy Spirit will convict you about unhealthy lifestyles and empower you to be delivered from them.

RO 12:2

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

We can’t keep presenting our minds to the corrupted input of the world and expect the work of the Holy Spirit to be sustainable.

How do we renew our minds?

Read God’s Word
Meditate on it
Memorize it
Make God’s Word your flesh
Have the mind of Christ by setting your minds on the things above where Christ is seated at the right hand of the Father, and not on the things of the world.

3. Transformation is Relational.

Phil. 3:20-21
20 For our citizenship is in heaven, from which we also eagerly wait for the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, 21 who will transform our lowly body that it may be conformed to His glorious body, according to the working by which He is able even to subdue all things to Himself.

Our citizenship, conversation, community is in heaven. When we begin to grasp this revelation, that we are in the world but not of it, everything begins to change.
Intimacy with God through the Holy Spirit in us transforms us, our marriage and family, and our community of faith.
We are citizens of the Kingdom of God first & above all else. USA TX

Val
Our conversation is to be seasoned with salt, and that is especially true of the way we talk to and about one another. Death & life are in the power of the tongue…
Husbands and wives are to pray together as One. This is the prayer the Lord wants to hear. It’s the prayer He answers. Its conversations about heavenly things!

Fred
Our community of faith is where we nurture healthy relationships and do life together.

Binghamton Community Group

Wherever two or more are gathered together in My Name, there I am in the midst of you. MT 18:20
He is always with us. He never leaves us or forsakes us.
When we are physically present together in His Name;
When we present ourselves

Secrets of a Happy Marriage
Long-lasting, happy marriages have more than great communication, Boon says. “Dr. Gottman brings up something no one ever talks about — that irreconcilable differences are normal, that you just have to come to terms with them, not try to resolve the unresolvable. On some level, that should have been obvious, but it hasn’t been,” she tells WebMD.
Most marriage therapists focus on “active listening,” which involves paraphrasing, validating, affirming your spouse’s feedback, says Boon. “That’s all well and good and may help you get through some conflicts in a less destructive way. But, as Dr. Gottman puts it, ‘you’re asking people to do Olympic-style gymnastics when they can hardly crawl.’ Many people will fail at those techniques. Research indicates that most people are dissatisfied with the outcome of marital therapy, that the problems come back.”

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